My Dad



Lawrence E. Frichtel Jr., 82

Memorial Services will be held at 10:30 a.m. Saturday, January 8,2011 at St. Paul the Apostle Church in New Middletown , for Larry E. Frichtel Jr., 82 of Poland, who passed away Wednesday afternoon at his residence surrounded by his family. Larry was born February 28, 1928 in Latrobe, PA, a son of Lawrence E. and Margaret A. Chernitsky Frichtel Sr. and has been a resident of the Youngstown area since 1936.
He graduated from South High School with the Class of 1946. Larry was a veteran who served as a United States Marine during the end of WWII and the Korean War.
He worked for the United States Post Office as a carrier and a labor relations representative and retired after 41 years of service. He was past president of the letter carrier’s union NALC#385.
He leaves his wife of over 50 years Rosemary Dugan whom he married May 7, 1955.
He will also be sadly missed by his son, Thomas J. Frichtel of Boardman, his two daughters , Mary Virginia Frichtel Williams and Margaret “Meg” (William) Harris both of Boardman; three sisters, Lillian (Albert) Pishioneri of Freehold, NJ, Dolores Kotheimer of Sharpsburg, GA, Tressa (Don) Best of Salem; four granddaughters, Candyce Frichtel, Ashlie Frichtel, Briana Harris, Sheila Harris; two great-grandchildren, Zailin Gatts and Carlie Ann Wolf.
Besides his parents he was preceded in death by his step-mother Tressa Frichtel and three brothers, James, William and Robert.

Nine years ago today, my dad went home. I can barely write about him because if I could use ONE word to describe him, I would have to tell you how humble he was. Then again I would have to tell you how honorable he was. And loyal, to everyone he came in contact with. Honest. My dad was the most honest man you will have ever met. Oh, and wise. Wise to a fault. He had these ‘gifts’. I probably couldn’t think of someone who was like him. My dad, served twice in the Korean War. My dad grew up during the depression and oddly , he never spoke of it. And more than that, my dad never spoke of his past. He was quiet about things that affected his life in not so good ways. When he was 5 years old, he found out from neighborhood kids that his ‘mom’ was not his mom. My grandma passed away and my grandpa remarried, but they never  spoke of that. He never knew that my grandma  wasn’t his real mom until he was made  fun of for  not having a mom. I didn’t find this out til I was in my 30’s.  Other things about my dad, I found out and he never intended to announce things. I didn’t know he served in Korea two times until his passing. He was never boastful about being a Marine, obviously. His time in the military was not a topic of conversation. My dad. 50 plus years he and my mom were married. What a testimony. 

I’d like to tell you what a warm and loving relationship my dad and I had, but I can’t. We didn’t have any relationship at all. Him and my sister and brother were close. He taught them about finances and he showed them how to live right. I was quite the disappointment. Every time I turned around, I disappointed my folks. The last year or so of his life was our best time. I came home from California and spent most of my time with him and my mom. My dad had a rough last year. He suffered and passed away from COPD. But not one time did he complain. He could have shut me out like I did him, but he welcomed me back and on New Year’s Day, evening, he called me in his bedroom and said “Thank you for making this New Years so good.” He asked for German Chocolate Cake and pork and sauerkraut for dinner. “Thank you for cooking and the cake was perfect. Thank you for helping your mom out, and its good for you to spend time with her. I wish we would have always been this way with each other.”  We said goodnight and I bawled the entire way home. He went to bed and never woke up. He passed away 4 days later. I miss that man. I miss everything we should have had. He wasn’t an ogre, and if I weren’t such a rebel, we could have had much more than we ever did. 


My dad had 4 loves in his life. Gifts, given to him by my brother and sister. Candyce, Ashlie, Briana and Sheila. They were the light of his life. They were his world. He never missed an event with those girls. All he talked about were his granddaughters. He  vacationed with them, he took them out, he kept them busy all summer long. He radiated when he spoke of them. He loved them so dearly. I truly believe that the worst day of his life is when my niece Briana was crowned homecoming queen and he was too sick to come and see her get crowned. Boy did he love those girls. 


I would go and sit with him in his last days. That gave my mom a chance to nap, or go and grocery shop, or just drive up and down the street for a few minutes. 9 years today I went over and sent my mom to bed and asked if he would like me to read to him, or shall we watch Judge Judy. I told him he would probably like me to finish the book I was reading to him. I always prayed for a reaction to my jokes, or when I would bother him with questions. Just hoping for a sign of life. “We” decided to finish the book. It was 2:20 and I noticed how parched he was. I asked him if he wanted a Rolling Rock… so instead of a cold beer, I swabbed his lips and mouth with cold water. I was talking to him. And I said “Dad, if you are tired, its okay to let go.”  And…he did. The moment he took his last breath, my niece Candyce called and she asked if grandpa was okay.  She felt like he wasn’t and needed to know. Her and Ashlie live about 45 minutes from here and she said “we are on our way”. I had to go wake up my mom.   “Mom” I said, and she jumped up and knew. My parents, my aunt and uncle and Paul and I are body donors at The College of Medicine in Rootstown

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and you only have 4 hours to get the body to the college. So I called there to let them know, my sister called relatives and my brother started cooking. We knew the entire family would want to come and say ‘goodbyes’ before the took him away. One of the guys who came and took his body said “Larry Frichtel? I worked with him at the Post Office! Wonderful guy, I ‘m sorry for your loss. And what a loss it was. 

I love you dad… until we meet again. 



Keep Me Warm and The Queens Meme

Keep Me Warm

Welcome to Saturday: 9. What we’ve committed to our readers is that we will post 9 questions every Saturday. Sometimes the post will have a theme, and at other times the questions will be totally unrelated. Those weeks we do “random questions,” so-to-speak. We encourage you to visit other participants posts and leave a comment. Because we don’t have any rules, it is your choice. We hate rules. We love to answer the questions, however, and here is today’s questions!

Saturday 9: Keep Me Warm (2014)

Unfamiliar with this week’s tune? Hear it here.

Here’s our first Saturday 9 of 2020!

1) Are you feeling warm and cozy as you answer these questions? Very much so, thank you! 

2) This time of year is important to college football fans. Are you watching/have you watched any of the Bowl games this year? No, and my Browns are in the Tank, so its old movies and Netflix

3) Crazy Sam’s been cold/flu free so far this winter and credits the Echinacea she takes every morning. Her brother insists she’s wasting her money. Do you take any herbal supplements? Turmeric and ginger for my joints and sugar

4) In the video for this song, Erin Bowman is singing in front of lights and ornaments. Are you sorry to see the decorations slowly disappear? Or do you think they should all come down right away? I’ve lost that lovin feeling for trees and decor. So adios !

5) She sings about socks, a scarf and a sweater. Tell us about your favorite sweater. Its grey and fuzzy and has some ‘diamonds’ on the shoulders .  

6) Erin credits her 8th grade choir teacher for believing in her and giving her a solo. That helped give her the confidence to go into performing professionally. When you were in 8th grade, did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? A cop.

7) This song has been used in commercials for McDonald’s and Turner Classic Movies. What commercial have you seen recently? Was it on TV or online? That GEICO remake. TV

8) In 2014, when this song was first released, we lost both Joan Rivers and Robin Williams. What comedian always makes you laugh? Seinfeld. I love the Coffee with Comedians.

9) Random question — There are two performers in the trapeze act: the one who flies through the air and the one who catches the flier. Which would you rather be? I just lost my Laffy Taffy thinking about this! I think the flier. At least if I mess up I have a net under my bum!!


The Queen’s Meme

Hi! I’m your host Bev Sykes of the blog “Funny the World“. . Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. (Past hosts include: Our first – Judd Corizan, Mr. L, Kwizgiver and
Bud)  Cheers to all of us thieves!

Stolen from The Queen’s Meme

1. January usually has ample amounts of snowfall in parts of the world. Did you ever make snow cream as a kid? um…no.

2. January is one of the months with 31 days. What are you going to do with that extra day? sleep

3. What is your favorite magazine? I can’t even think when the last time I opened a magazine…. hmmmmm. OH.. Bake From Scratch is an awesome one.. 

4.  If you live to be 99 years old, what would you like your life to be like in that last decade?? I would like to be able to go to the bathroom on my own !  And I would like to have people around me that treat me with respect. I have learned a lot since watching my friend’s mom. Not everyone is able to wipe butts. And I know that I just love her. I would do anything for her and her son. I hope someone gives a crap about me.

5. The great world of Wikipedia tells me that scientists claim 99% of all documented species are extinct. Which remaining species in the 1% category would you really like to see extinct.  And which species in the 99% category would you like to bring back? Stink bugs can beat it and I would like to see the macaw come back. They are the most beautiful birds, but they are only found in zoos. 


6. On January 14, 1986 motorists were required for the first time to wear seat belts?
Do you always buckle up? Why or why not? Yes. I hate it but I know if I didn’t I’d get pulled over. 

7. Why did the cow jump over the moon? To get a milky way .

9. Have you said anything in the last 24 hours that you regret? no

10. Have you ever written anything on your blog that you wish you could take back? no

11. Are you the blabber or the blabbee? Tell us your most embarrassing blabbermouth moment. My family would say I was the blabber. But … 

12. How important is a cell phone in your life? Very. I am writing a book, and I use it to use the voice thing to remind myself of things. But, today I ordered a recorder from Amazon. It’ll be here tomorrow. But, I can’t blog on my phone. 

13. A “cuisine” is typically influenced by and named after geographical regions and cultures. Pretend your blog is a country. What is the name of your cuisine? Poland… The Cabbage Roll!

14. You are the Blog Paparazzi! Which blogger’s real photograph are you most interested in getting? I’m confused.

15. Are you always on time or just a tad late? On time.

16. Can you think of a time when you were late for something and it was REALLY a big deal? not off hand.

17. If you were on your way to work and had five minutes to get there, would you stop in the road to rescue a crossing turtle? Definitely

18. When you are having a really good day, what usually makes it good? Hearing from someone I care about and good music.

19.  What is the most annoying Christmas song? Jingle Bell Rock. ugh

20. You are Snow White. Which dwarf is your favorite and why? Happy! Its nice to be around someone with a good outlook. 



Hi! I’m your host Bev Sykes of the blog “Funny the World“. . Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. (Past hosts include: Our first – Judd Corizan, Mr. L, Kwizgiver and
Bud)  Cheers to all of us thieves!


Taken from the Sleepy Rambles

1. Do you ever give things away to your friends?  Sure! Books, food, cashola
2. Does it make you uncomfortable when your parents talk about finding people attractive? If your parents don’t make comments like that, what sort of things can your family members say that do make you feel uncomfortable? Sometimes family members talk shit about other family members. We don’t want to hear it. I hate to hear things about personal stuff

3. Have you ever heard of an “alternative spring break”? Have you ever participated in one or known someone who has? Heck I hardly even remember “regular spring break”

4. Is there anyone’s friendship or relationship, in particular, that makes you jealous? Yes, but I have to accept that we have ‘limits’, and I can’t always have what I wished I could have.

5. Is there a book series where you loved the first book, but for some reason the other books in the series just didn’t measure up? Not that I can think of at the moment.

6. Are you a registered voter? Yes

7. Are there any stores/restaurants that you would like to shop/eat at, but there aren’t any located near enough to you? BUBBA GUMPS

8. How many people would you say you are close with? Who are they? My sister and brother. Most of my nieces. a couple of friends. Of course, Paul! But I don’t tend to do my part these days. I’ve let many slip away and I’ve cut off people that I THOUGHT were my friends. 

9. Do you ever have smell hallucinations?  Yes! When my mom passed away, I woke up in the middle of the night smelling bleach. I got up, went to the basement, checked all my cleaning supplies, nothing. This happened for a couple of months. 

10. Is there something that you did not used to take seriously, that you either now take seriously or wish that you had in the past (e.g., a relationship that you miss, your education, etc.)? Yes and no. Its hard to talk about it. But… it happened  one New Years Eve in Jacksonville FL. 

11. Are there any subjects that you are interested in so much that you would read whole books or academic journals about them? Yep. Animals and making pet food, and at one time in my life, I read everything I could about baking. And how to perfect it. 

12. Are you physically affectionate with your friends? One or  two of them

13. When you were in school, did you witness a lot of bullying? How did the teachers react to name-calling or violence? Well … not bullying. Ok, one of the  girls on my street used to make me steal a cig from my folks and she would protect me. I don’t know from WHAT, but that was the deal. I lost all of my hair  due to illness in the sixth grade. My mom held me back that year, but transferred my sister and brother and I to a different school. For 3 years, I had little to no hair. The beginning of the school year was rough, but people got used to me. 

14. If there is a specific celebrity (or two, or three!) that you dislike, is it because of petty reasons or is it because they’ve done something absolutely damning in your mind? Probably. I can be petty like that, but none comes to mind at the moment. I have also become one of those that have to ‘hide’ my friends of facebook that constantly post ignorant political comments. Our country is divided, yes…but please, give it a REST! There are SO MANY cute puppies to post!! 

15. Are any of your friends/relatives actually impressive artists or writers? My friend Carla is one amazing artist! She painted us a beautiful picture when Paul and I remarried. I would LOVE to have a wall of her stuff in my entry way, but I don’t know how to  ask. I don’t know what she charges, IF she does at all. But she is one talented gal









Saturday Nine

Happy Holidays!

Welcome to Saturday: 9. What we’ve committed to our readers is that we will post 9 questions every Saturday. Sometimes the post will have a theme, and at other times the questions will be totally unrelated. Those weeks we do “random questions,” so-to-speak. We encourage you to visit other participants posts and leave a comment. Because we don’t have any rules, it is your choice. We hate rules. We love memes, however, and here is today’s meme!

Saturday 9: Happy Holidays! (from the archives)

1. As you can see, Sam loved giving her annual wish list to Santa. Yet some children are reluctant to climb into Jolly Old St. Nick’s lap. Did you enjoy the tradition or were you shy? Or did you by pass it altogether — either because you wrote him a letter or because your family didn’t celebrate Christmas?

I got on that old mans lap and begged for gifts…No Shame Here!!

2. Are you currently on the Naughty or Nice list? How did you get there?

Sadly, I haven’t been on the Naughty list for years!!

3. Did you ship any gifts to friends and family this year? If so, which one traveled the farthest?

Seems all of my ‘far away folk’ will be at my sister’s house this year

4. Did you buy yourself a gift this year?

Mines always first! I have to see if I’m in the mood to buy gifts for others.

5. What’s your favorite holiday-themed movie? Have you seen it yet this year?

The National Lampoons shows. Havent seen a one. Yet

6. Thinking of movies, Christmas is lucrative for Hollywood. Have you ever gone to a movie theater on Christmas Day?

Yes. It should be a tradition, not just for the lonesome.

7. Have you ever suffered an embarrassing moment at the company Christmas party?

Again, sadly no.

8. What’s your favorite beverage in cold weather?

Good old Iced Tea!!! 

9. Share a memory from last Christmas.

I was in the hospital, I believe. That’s when my knee replacement became infected and I had to have it removed. Woo Hoo. 

Thanks so much for joining us again at Saturday: 9. As always, feel free to come back, see who has participated and comment on their posts. In fact sometimes, if you want to read & comment on everyone’s responses, you might want to check back again tomorrow. But it is not a rule. We haven’t any rules here. Join us next week for another version of Saturday: 9, “Just A Silly Meme on a Saturday!” Enjoy your holidays!




Drama is an icky energy.

It’s draining, and its something that we get sucked into all too easily – especially if we are highly empathic.

That’s because we feel what people are going through, and we want to help them.

We want their pain and trauma to stop – for them, but also for us.

By helping them to feel better, we feel better, especially if our resilience is low due to poor self-care, being tired or run down.

In supporting them, at some level, it feels like we are supporting us.

But here’s the rub, this often depletes us even more and although we can perhaps positively impact one situation in the Drama Queens life, the root cause of the pattern is still there.

To start with we probably need to get clear on Drama.

What exactly is it?

We all have stuff happen in our lives, of course, small stuff, big stuff and general stuff.

That’s a given.

But a Drama Queen (and I only use this terminology so that we can all relate, it’s not a judgment) is ALWAYS in the middle of some kind of stuff.

They are constantly stuck in a “situation” or ordeal that is a problem for them.

They rarely have a time when nothing is kicking off, and if they do get a run of peace and quiet – they manage to draw something in that is chaotic and Drama based.

I know lots of people that have been through big stuff and not made a drama out of it, but there are some people that thrive on it.

Classic Drama tendencies include:

Messaging friends about a situation

Use of drama based language “it’s all kicking off”

Poor me thinking and communication

Vague book – social media comments that manipulate others to jump on the thread and ask what’s wrong

Making a mountain out of a molehill

Not looking at own stuff or doing their own work.

Quite a shallow persona, not willing to dig down and actually heal because they would have to give up their Drama

Poor self-awareness

Manipulative and shows up to “support you” but really its to dump or use you in some way

Its all about me attitude

Superficial interest in you and your life so that they can hook into you and share their Drama

Let’s be honest – Drama Queens are people that don’t feel good enough.

They feel insignificant or less than in some way in their life, and they create or draw in drama to set them up to centre stage.

The pay off for their Drama is that it all becomes about them – people rally round them, people talk about them, people want to help them…..

ALL about them.

And this is what their ego wants, even if they can’t see this.

Because the ego wants to feel loved, important and significant.

And it doesn’t – because these people will not look at their own stuff and do their work.

There is usually a huge lack of responsibility, both in life and in the vibe that they send out there.

None of it is their fault, ever.

In fact, they are a victim.

(Aren’t we all a victim of life sometimes though?)

I don’t say all of this to demonize these people, far from it I have a bucket full of compassion.

As an observer, I can see that they are really stuck and in fear.

Fear that if they really got their shiz together that there would be….wait for it….Drama Free.

And that’s scary to them because they would no longer have the significance they need.

The ironic things are that if they really did sort their stuff out then they would be a whole lot easier to be around, and they would forge genuine connections in their lives instead of relationships that are usually out of exchange because of their significance seeking.

These people deserve our compassion, but I also ask that you are compassionate with yourself.

Try not to get sucked in, especially if this is an ongoing pattern of Drama.

You might be able to help now, but making yourself constantly available might also make you vulnerable.

Remember that they are probably unaware that they are doing this, and as a person with poor awareness they are also unlikely to see how much it drains others.

It’s hard to detach altogether from someone that loves Drama.

As soon as you try to assert a boundary you can find that the ultimate Drama kicks off and they “fall out” with you.

This is great ego food for them as they can make it all about how mean you are and about how vulnerable you made them.

They will whip it up and tell everyone they know, in person and of course on social media.

It’s their finest hour really, and you can easily get dragged into this and try to defend yourself.

Remember that the people they are connected to are likely to be like them (Law of Attraction) and love the Drama, so remaining as conscious and neutral as you can is important.

This reaction is why it’s a good idea to have better boundaries from the outset (I know, hindsight is a marvellous thing, right!)

But also to detach slowly.

Make a conscious decision that you are becoming a Drama free zone and start to unplug from the person slowly.

Be busy when they want to come over.

Don’t respond to every single message.

When they have their next crisis make some positive suggestions that involve other people instead of you trying to fix them.

Gradually pull up the drawbridge, otherwise, they will use a sudden cutting off as a reason for more Drama.

And finally – send them love and sod them off.

Maybe one day they will see that if Drama is perpetually occurring in their life, then it’s their chaotic and hurt vibration due to old and unhealed wounds coupled with their egos need for significance that keeps attracting it in.

Or maybe not, but its time we learned that we can’t help people that are committed to their Drama and the payoff it’s providing.

Love Kate x

Borrowed from Kate Spencer via FB


The Addams Family

Welcome to Saturday: 9. What we’ve committed to our readers is that we will post 9 questions every Saturday. Sometimes the post will have a theme, and at other times the questions will be totally unrelated. Those weeks we do “random questions,” so-to-speak. We encourage you to visit other participants posts and leave a comment. Because we don’t have any rules, it is your choice. We hate rules. We love memes, however, and here is today’s meme!

The Addams Family (1964)
Unfamiliar with this week’s song. Hear it here.

1) One of TV’s spookiest families was inspired by a series of New Yorker cartoons. What’s the last magazine you flipped through?


2) The Addams’ butler, Lurch, was originally conceived as a mute. But then actor Ted Cassidy ad libbed the line, “You rang?” and Lurch had a voice, and a catchphrase. Can you think of another catchphrase connected to a TV character?


3) Now here’s the most important question of the week: Do you prefer The Addams Family or The Munsters?


4) What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?


5) Thursday was Halloween. What goodies did you give the trick or treaters?


6) Are you attending/have you attended any Halloween parties this year?


7) Did you carve a jack o’lantern this year?


8) Do you eat candy corn all year around … only at Halloween … or never?


9) In 1964, when The Addams Family premiered, one of the most popular store-bought Halloween costumes was Bambi. It came with a plastic mask held on by a thin elastic band. Tell us about a memorable Halloween costume from your childhood.


10 Things

10 Things You Should Do Every Day Before 10 AM


Power of Positivity POWER OF POSITIVITY



“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive; to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.” ~ Marcus Aurelius


You don’t have to be a morning person to benefit from morning rituals. Most people hit snooze, roll out of bed and into some clothes while plunging into their day without a plan.




You, however, can choose to approach your day mindfully. Being mindful will increase the odds that you will feel good, be more productive and end up happier when it’s all over.




Meditating or even some simple breathing can help you begin your day with a sense of calm. Instead of reaching for your phone or checking email first thing in the morning, take just a few minutes to sit and experience the quiet.


There is plenty of activity during our day, make a commitment to start on a quieter note. It will set the tone for your day and will help increase your focus, energy, and optimism.





“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart


Start your day by reflecting on what you are grateful for. A consistent practice of gratitude in the mornings will increase your awareness of gratitude throughout your day. It will also make you more resilient when challenges occur and help you put drama in perspective.



In the quiet of the day, before the fires need putting out, plan your day by focusing on three goals you want to accomplish.


Make those goals a priority for the day. When you set about planning your day with intention, you are more likely to feel productive at the end of it.



As you go about setting your daily intentions, pad your schedule to allow yourself to tend to fires as they arise. Padding your schedule with free time will give you a better chance of achieving your goals and may even add some downtime throughout the day.



Your body awakens dehydrated, so it is very important to drink up first thing in the morning. In her book, The Body Ecology Diet, Donna Gates suggests you drink half of your entire daily water intake by mid-morning. It will flush your system of toxins, leave you feeling less hungry and reduce headaches throughout the day.





You will be hard-pressed to find anyone who doesn’t wake up feeling a bit stiff. It isn’t always easy to incorporate exercise into a morning routine. If you were going to choose one thing, the American Journal of Sports Medicine suggests adding a short muscle-stretching sequence of exercises to your morning schedule.


Studies show that consistent stretching in the morning can increase flexibility, improve circulation, reduce stress throughout your day and improve posture.



Starting your day with upbeat and fun music will not only wake you up but it will fill you with positive energy for your day.


A 2013 study found that music makes you feel good. According to study participants, the two most important benefits of listening to music are “mood regulation” and “self-awareness.”


Not only has it been shown to improve your mood but it can end up increasing motivation, performance, and lead to a better night’s sleep too.





Start your day off by smiling at yourself in the bathroom mirror. Smiling will have a positive effect on your overall attitude and well-being, even when it starts out a little forced. Smiling makes you more approachable, and appear more trustworthy. In fact, The University of Montpellier discovered that smiling will also make you a more effective leader.



Life is busy and morning routines can be a bit rushed. It can be very tempting when you are running behind to leave your clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink or leave the trash until later. Just do put them away!


Procrastination around cleaning up after yourself can prevent you from realizing our highest potential and best work. It also allows you to relax fully upon returning home. It is better to pro-actively clean up after yourself than waiting to be called out on it.



It might seem enticing to get a bunch of easy things checked off your to-do list, but it has been shown time and time again that doing your hardest task first leads to a more productive and happier day. You are more likely to remember the day as being a good one when your day gets better and is easier over time. The bonus: it helps stop procrastination over the things we like to do the least